Bridesmaid Etiquette
So you’ve been asked to be in a wedding. And if you’re as unexperienced as I am, you may be a little unsure about what’s expected of you. You’ve read some blogs, poked around a few Internet sites and maybe even browsed through a bridesmaid etiquette book.
I’m here to fill you in on my research. And as far as I’m concerned, bridesmaids are in charge of three things.
Putting on the bridal shower. Collectively, the bridesmaids are to come up with a theme (if one is desired), a budget and a guest list. You don’t have to invite the entire world. Most brides have more than one shower and depending on who puts it on, entirely different groups of people are invited to each. Your job as a bridesmaid is to put on one… not three. One definite must: both mothers are to be invited.
Planning the bachelorette party. This is the perfect opportunity for the bride to get a little crazy and let off some wedding steam. It’s your job as a bridesmaid to make sure she has a great time. This means helping her complete her dares and making sure everything is photographed. She’ll definitely want to see (and maybe delete) the evidence the next morning.
All sorts of support. Above anything else, your job as a bridesmaid is to be the best friend you can be to the bride. If that means wearing a dress you hate, suck it up and wear it. If you have to reduce her stress level by running some errands the morning of the wedding, by all means do it. You’ll want the same support on your wedding day, so make sure everything runs as smooth as possible on hers.
- Stephanie
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